You’d swear I had taken the blue pill…

Hey you,

So I’ve actually been wanting to share this because I think alot of people wonder about it even if they sometimes die wondering but now here’s the thing, to what extent should one actually share information on such? I just hope I don’t share “too much” for you to handle.

Before I fell pregnant I wondered how people(couples) actually have sex when they are pregnant it has always just been so awkward to imagine and now I actually got to experience it. You find when you experience something that it’s just not as weird or bad as you thought it would be.

First trimester, as I probably mentioned in my first post(you can go back and read it if you haven’t) I was just always tired and moody so sex was the last thing on my mind in fact I wanted none of that heck, I didn’t even think of it. Which was quite a problem for my partner because this was the one time where he got excited for me(apparently, they enjoy it more during this time everything is just nice and warm) but he just had to understand because I just wasn’t up for it. All I wanted was to sleep and this was until the second trimester.

In the second trimester till the end I was the problematic one, I was constantly wanting to enjoy and explore him, you’d swear I had taken a blue pill to last me a whole 5months. It’s different of course with every woman by we can’t pretend that it’s not something that is not experienced, some women do not want a man near them throughout the pregnancy, sex just irritates them.

As much as I was a cat constantly sinking my claws into my boyfriend(which he of course wasn’t complaining about) my belly started to grow which was now beginning to restrict my movement and with the belly being bigger it meant I was heavier(biggest spoiler) but hey I had no intentions of giving up. And so I soldiered on right till the end.

Being pregnant doesn’t mean you are sick and there’s no such thing as your partner “poking your baby” so if everything is A okay in terms of the health of your pregnancy nothing should stop you from receiving pleasure from your bae. However certain styles are impossible to do once the belly has grown so it’s all about finding what works for you and making the best of it. Also, in the last stages of your pregnancy it is possible with some women that they will spot after sex because of the position they were in , so don’t pressurise yourself into dong what you used to create before you were pregnant because the baby will be born and you can go back to being as feisty as you want.

I’d love to hear what you’ve thought or imagined sex to be like for a pregnant woman. If you’ve been there where you those women who just wanted nothing to do with sex or where you more like me?

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Boy or Girl?How the scan deceived me

Knowing that you have a baby on the way can be a very exciting journey but I think knowing the gender of your unborn baby can make it even more exciting. This is because you can start deciding on baby names(well in our case we already had two unisex names that we had decided on, so that was never really an issue for us irregardless of what the gender of the baby would be), preparing the baby’s nursery(provided of course if you have the space and the funds to do so), buying clothes for the baby,etc. It just honestly makes life so much easier.

Most doctors tell you that you can tell the baby’s gender by week 20, I waited till week 29(which could have also been the reason to my scan turning out the way it did since it was not a 3D scan) to go to the doctor for a gender scan and the GP told me it was a boy and even showed me the babies little thing and that was more than enough confirmation for me, I was convinced. I got so excited that because I had always wanted and dreamt of my first born being a boy, so I called my baby daddy(doesn’t sound right does it?I think it’s better when I say my partner) and friends about the great news but he just wasn’t convinced, he kept telling me it was a girl which just frustrated me because I was just like “I know what I saw my guy”. He was so fixated on the fact that I was carrying a girl that we ended up deciding that we would not discuss the baby’s gender until the baby was born to avoid fighting about it unnecessarily. My second scan had told me the exact same thing that the previous scan told me and so I just didn’t care what anyone else said i rendered to my baby as “him/he” because I told myself there’s no way it can be wrong twice.

Since my partner was so fixated on the baby being a girl and me on the baby being a boy we decided we would buy neutral colours when buying the clothes, I honestly couldn’t wait to give birth and prove him wrong(I honestly hate being wrong). Then the baby was born a few months later and when they held her up to for me to see the gender I couldn’t believe my eyes “it’s a girl” I said with a very confused look. It took me quite a while to come to terms with this, so much so that for the first few days I kept referring to her as “him” and the fact that there werr so many blue things that I had received from the baby shower just made things worse.

So just like that my scan had lied to me TWICE but I also strongly believe that maybe there was something wrong with the scanner so my advice to anyone who is expecting would be to rather go for a 3D scan and do it more than once. If a 2D scan is what you can afford you can go for a second opinion as well just to be sure.

Have you ever experienced such?

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