Hey Boo,

I actually don’t think people get it, motherhood is not as simple as it may seem. It’s so easy to take pictures and make them look good; it’s easy to smile for the camera and look like you are having the time of your life when actually aren’t.

Don’t get me wrong I love being a mother to my angel but it is not easy hey. The first thing you need to adjyst to is your beauty sleep, even if your baby doesn’t bother you at night you are still waking up to their sleeping position, to the check if they are still breathing and all that jazz. Then, you need to adjust to your body changes, now I struggled with this alot because I just didn’t lose the “baby fat” and you are probably wondering, why not just go on a diet or exercise? Well I tried trust me I did. I think this diet thing works if you are the one buying the groceries or if you actually have some sort of support system and I tried to exercise but that’s pointless if I’m not eating right so I stopped but now my problem was that every time I went to the doctor I was gaining weight and not losing, at some point I was even scared I might be pregnant again that’s how bad it is/was, I have literally gone two sizes up from my original pre pregnancy weight. Then you also need to learn to love your stretchmarks I now call them love marks and that’s really what they are, I mean I’ve never been slim but I didn’t have stretchmarks before pregnancy and that can in a way affect the way you look at yourself.

Another thing that you need to adapt to is the loneliness, now not all mums experience this but if you are home alone with your baby most of the time it does get to you and it can sometimes lead to a depressed mom. As much as you have alot to do with baby but once you actually take a moment to breath you realise that you are actually alone and as much as everyone calls and checks on you or comes to visit, you are ALONE.

It’s really not as easy as it seems to the world, before you become a mother you think it’s not that hard, I once posted “I’m tired” and a friend of mine replied “lol what would make you tired?” and I don’t blame her because well she didn’t and still doesn’t understand. Everyday is a chance to learn more about being a mother, it is a chance to make mistakes and correct them. I mean I forgot my daughter’s six weeks appointment that’s how hectic my journey has been but you know what? I wouldn’t change it for the world.

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Hey boo,

Can we just talk about breastfeeding? Can that be the first thing you and I talk about? It was literally the one thing that tortured me on my first few days of motherhood.

So, after giving birth I had to now feed my baby but the problem was now that I don’t have any milk and they don’t recommend bottle feeding. My word she would suck so hard and there was nothing coming out for the whole of the first day so I had to use formula milk because she just wasn’t sleeping and I when was expressing the milk, my nipples cracked. I mean what else could happen? Thank the heavens for the bepanthen nipple cream it does wonders.It took me quite a while to successfully breastfeed, probably two or three weeks and so that meant two or three weeks of no proper sleep, baby girl would wake up every 2hours then want to sleep the whole day.

Whilst having to deal with sleepless nights, a baby that is never full I also found myself having to deal with stitches. Now, see that tight there is pain because you can barely sit or move without feeling the pain and was for a full 10days. I learnt then that being a new mum, meant I too was being born again because I was so new and clueless to this mother thing so much so that I even forgot the check up date for my baby’s six weeks appointment, I know right, who does that?

My biggest lesson throughout my 6weeks of being a mother was that I am going to make mistakes along the way and that us perfectly normal u just need to allow myself to understand that it’s normal to make such mistakes because every day is a new lesson st a different level.

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