Undecided

Hey boo,

Have you ever been at a point in your life where you know exactly what you want but you just don’t know how to execute your plan and everything you think of just doesn’t seem to work because you are scared it won’t work if you do try it that way? As though there is some plan bigger than the one that is already in your mind?

That’s where I’m currently at right now with my blog. I love writing and I do it almost everyday but then I don’t find myself posting because I feel like it’s just not what I want it to be. I know it’s quite weird when you look at it from the outside but I feel like I’m not finding the right spice to make this meat tasty. My main problem with this is that I know exactly what I want but I just feel like I don’t have the right tools as yet to do what I want.

I’ve been thinking about this and I’d actually like your ipinion, maybe that will help me decide. Have you ever gotten to where I currently am? Whether it is with your career or life in general? I’d love your views.

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You can not pour from an empty cup!

“My son/daughter is my first priority” said a mother.

Hey boo,

Today I actually that we tend to put our children before ourselves, especially when you are a first time. You tend to want to do everything perfect, you even get to a point where you say “My child’s comes first ” and that is such a lie, which is what I think raises broken and hurt children.

You probably thinking, she’s crazy and maybe I am but think about it for a second. If you put someone else’s happiness before yours, what happens to your happiness? It simply becomes dark and without having seen it you also begin to darken your young ones light. I know we never want to think about it like that but maybe we need to so that we can a generation better than ours.

If you are happy and at peace yourself then making your child happy comes naturally, you can never and I mean never give your child your all if you are not at your best.

I grew up being so angry at my mum because I just thought she never loved me as her child but now that I am older, I realise that it was never her fault. She wanted to do the best she could for me and my brothers, so much so that she never realised how much her hurt and pain was visible, it was visibke through how she shouted at us for the smallest things like not putting the cup upside down in the cupboard, to us not coming back from the shop after 30minutes. She couldnt speak about her pain so she couldnt heal from it and because she couldn’t heal she wasn’t happy.

I would tell myself that I am going to do the best I can to be different from my mother, I realise now how unfair I was to her because she never wanted to be unhappy, she never wanted to do things the way she did but her circumstance pushed her. She doesn’t know it but I am grateful to her and her life exoeriences because she taught me to put myself first, she taught me to love myself before anything and anyone else.

If you need a break, go to the mall, the movies, lunch with friends, go to the spa because not onky will it benefit you to breathe but it will benefit your child as well. Talk to someone if you need to babes!

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