Breastfeeding!

Hey boo,

So I’ve always thought in my head that Breastfeeding would be the most natural and easy part of motherhood but little did I know that it would actually be the exact opposite.

I’ve always heard of people saying their milk would just come out with no complications after their baby is born or some even before, we’ll I had no such luck. So as you know by 7am in the morning on the 5th of March, I especially already a mom and around 8am, my baby was already in my hands and I now had to do what a presumed was easy, feed her.

Firstly, I have what they call inverted nipples so you can imagine how I struggled with her latching to a point where my mother gave her formula milk because just wouldn’t stop crying. You probably wondering why I did not express the milk, well babes, I did but on some days I had to choose my struggle. I would either deal with engorged nipples then express cracked nipples because that just made it worse and the pain that came with it was unbearable, I think it literally took me two weeks to get it right.

How did I get it right? Well because I cat afford those expensive doctors, I did what I do best which is watching YouTube videos and a video by mommyandbabyapproved about Breastfeeding was the plug for me, I think she was talking about her 6 weeks update and I am so grateful to hear for that. I would simply breastfeed my girl while sleeping sideways and it work like magic, suddenly it wasn’t as painful as it was when I first started out.

Two months down the line, I was breast feeding properly but I just did not enjoy it and it didn’t feel like the mother-child bond people always talk about because my breast would still be painful and forever engorged, so I’m friend of mine advised me to press my breasts in warm water and rub them for 3days while bathing, that right there was the magic I had been needing because from that day onwards I breastfed like any other mom and I enjoy it, it ain’t heaven like they it is but I enjoy it.

Every journey may be different but as first time mothers we need to seek help where we struggle even if it’s from simple things like blogs, you tube videos. I still get a tingly feeling where I have to drink water while Breastfeeding everytime Emihle feeds on my left breast, I don’t know if that’s weird or shouldn’t be happening but hey it’s happening.

Please share your Breastfeeding experience with me, you probably one of the lucky ones and you thinking, you really went through all that?

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Walk in the park? 3 month old baby/mom.

Hey boo,

In June not only did I celebrate my 23rd birthday but I also celebrated 3months with my baby and 3months of being a mother. People usually say that it’s weird that I celebrate how long I’ve been a mother for and for me it just doesn’t make sense why one shouldn’t because not only is your child growing but you are also growing as a mother and discovering new things as each day comes.

Anyways, that’s not what we are here for (topic for another day), let’s go back to the 5th of June. So my daughter turns 3months and I have never felt so dissatisfied with myself an my life. I basically do the same thing day in, day out. I am learning new things daily about becoming a mother but I’m just not taking in the process, instead I’m pressuring myself to “do better” than what was done for me. Have you ever loved someone so much that you spend each and every day of your life worrying about what would become of your life should you lose the person? That’s how I’ve spent my 3months of being a mother, I am so scared to be away from my daughter that I wouldn’t want to leave her even for 30minutes. Is that even normal?

My friends call me an “overthinker” and I guess that’s true because I remember in the first week of June I had 2 supplementary exams that had already been paid for but I just couldn’t go and leave her for more than 4hours. I kept thinking of how my 14year old brother could mistakenly drop him or choke him while feeding him, paranoid much? Lol, Well that’s me.

Not only was I paranoid about leaving her alone, my weight was also a problem. I tried jogging but then I would feel an excruciating pain on my belly and my mum would say my womb has not yet healed and I was putting too much pressure on it, then I tried going on a diet which was a complete waste of time because baby Q(my daughter) would suck me dry and leave me super hungry so I would find myself eating every hour. Lol I became so desperate because people are always ready to ask you why you have not lost the baby weight, why you are “letting yourself go of yourself” and the funny thing is that it’s always the women who are the first to say negative things to and about other women. Why does that happen though? Why are we so ready to always bring each other down?

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