Hi boo,

A friend of mine asked me if I got my baby in a sleeping routine from when she was a baby and that got me thinking.

When I was pregnant I had it all figured out, from when I’d bathe my baby, to reading a book for her, to making sure she sleeps at night and not during the day. Literally everything was planned out to the tea, as I’m sure you know I was more than ready for this baby. So what happened?

The simplest answer I can give is, I have no idea, I slept whenever my baby slept, fed her whenever she was hungry and did not read her any books but we did have out little bible study mornings and that was just abkut it.

Besides being lazy, I decided it wasn’t fair for me to want to put my baby in a routine that suited me when I was not even working, so I allowed her to be my boss and it all turned just fine because within three months she was sleeping around the same time as me. The only thing I never compromised on was bottle feeding at night from the very beginning because I realized she would never suck as much milk out of me when she I breastfed her at night.

Are you that mommy who believes in having a routine? Or are you like me, someone who goes with the flow when it comes to such?

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Hey boo,

Is it not weird how people treat pregnancy like it’s some sort ofsickness being told what or what not to do because there will be some sort of consequences to follow? Today I was in a taxi with se pregnant lady and an old woman who was busy talking and advising her what to do and what not to do, which had me thinking of all the crazy things I heard when I was pregnant.

First I was told that I should not wear tight things because that would allow “witches/abathakathi” (I am black after all) to see how far along I was. I mean,whaaaat?!does that even mean?

Then I was told that if you eat peaches/mangoes a lot then your child will have Jondis, this had me so worried because this was all I ever craved, Ow and cold water because I would apparently feel cold in the labor room or my baby would have pneumonia. Now the cold water thing had me so freaked out that when I was 6months pregnant I literally stopped drinking cold water no matter how hot it would be because a family friend had just given birth and her child had to stay at the hospital for a few days because of pneumonia (so I obviously wasn’t opting for that especially not in a public hospital) but guess what? I was still freezing cold the day I gave birth because I think I had probably two or three blankets covering my shoulders that’s just how bad it was.

There are just so many myths revolving around pregnant that add on to the daily pressure and challenges faced by a pregnant woman and it is honestly so not fair to do that. It is especially famous in the black community because our parents grew up believing all these things like how you shouldn’t plait your hair when you are pregnant because that somehow leads to the baby being tied up by the umbilical cord. How about we rather give advice on what people should or shouldn’t eat based on actual facts that have been proven?

What is your experience with pregnancy myths? I’m sure there are so many out there that even I am not aware of, please do share and let’s laugh together.

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