Hey boo,
If you’ve never given birth you probably think it’s the worst pain a woman will ever feel, but is it really?
During my last check up, I was told that if by the 8th of March I hadn’t given birth I’d have to admit myself to the hospital to have a c-section and that is one thing I did not want because I didn’t want to be “limited” to the number of children I can have. So every single day from then I would massage my stomach trying to push baby down and tried all those weird exercises Google will tell you about, I told myself “I am pushing you out baby” and I won’t say those exercises worked but luckily for me there was no c-section.
On the 5th of March at 00:07am i had a wet dream ( hahaha not the kind you are thinking of ) and when I woke up I was wet, feeling so embarrassed that I had wet myself, so I went to the toilet and I realised that this wasn’t any normal pee which meant I might be in labor and I could feel the pain slowly creeping in. It would come and go every 30minutes but at around 3am the pain started to get worse and I just couldn’t stay strong anymore so I took my hospital bag and got dressed then I woke up my dad to take me to the hospital.
I don’t know what it is but I’m guessing that it’s all the stories that people tell you, I was in pain yes, but my mind was telling me that the pain is more the pain I was actually feeling which is honestly not true but at that moment my mind just told me that I was dying and so there I was screaming crying for help like a mad woman.
By 06:27am( I was keep tracking of every minute where there was change) I was suddenly feeling an urge to push and so I kept pushing and pushing(thanks to the Instagram page @fruitfulwomenonline I knew exactly what to do), I didn’t even bother to call my nurse because she was already fed up with me and my screams ( disadvantages of giving birth at a public hospital) so I just kept pushing and when I could feel that the head was halfway through I put my hands forward to make sure I hold the baby once she’s out and when the head was out I screamed for the nurse to tell her the baby is out and she rushed in to help me by 6:45am my baby girl was born and all that pain was gone and forgotten I was just feeling cold.
I didn’t cry or go through all those emotions that other women say they go through instead I was shocked that I had given birth to a baby girl and not a boy, also I didn’t get that “bodytobody” moment with my baby girl and to this day I can never tell you why it didn’t happen ( yet another disadvange of giving birth at a public hospital).
If you ask me, it’s all in the mind. The pain is only as bad as you tell yourself it is but if I was to give a more realistic explanation of how the pain was for me, it felt like have period pains and a backache at the same time.
How was your labor day experience or if you haven’t had a baby. What’s the one thing you fear the most about the day you do give birth?
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