Atelophobia🤦

Hey boo,

I’ve been thinking about something of late and I just thought I’d share my thoughts with you. You probably wondering what atelophobia is, it is the fear of not being good enough. This is a fear that people dot talk about because well, people jus don’t want to be vulnerable anymore.

Have you ever sat down and actually thought maybe the reason why this and this is happening is because “ I’m not good enough”, maybe the reason why this person is treating me this way is because “I’m not good enough”, the reason why I’m not getting that promotion at work is because “ I’m not good enough”. Maybe you have but for some people it’s more than just a thought, it’s has become their life.
I remember there was a thread me in my life where I never saw myself as “good enough”, I always thought my friends looked better in the picture and so I would always offer myself to be the one taking the picture instead of being in the picture, even at school I would constantly compare myself to others thinking I won’t get good marks because I’m just not clever enough, I was always too fat, too dumb, too clumsy to ever be good enough for anything and because that is what I believe, the world responded and people started saying it which just made me even more insecure. With such feelings come anxiety and depression, it’s sometimes developed at a young age when you have no one to talk to, when you grow up having No one to encourage and speak positivity to your life, someone to help build your confidence from a young age, all this builds the simple yet not so simple fear.
Atelophobia, a word most of us even k ow yet it carries so much weight in its meaning. Mental health is so important yet it’s not even appreciated because everyone is just so focused on working towards their dreams and being “strong”. What if we took just 5minutes off the 24hours that we are given daily to genuinely ask how just one person is really doing, if they are coping and if they are well, don’t you think that would make a difference in our lives.

I am Muhle Magwentshu and I suffer from Atelophobia, what do you suffer from?

Thank you for your time❤️

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