Knowing that you have a baby on the way can be a very exciting journey but I think knowing the gender of your unborn baby can make it even more exciting. This is because you can start deciding on baby names(well in our case we already had two unisex names that we had decided on, so that was never really an issue for us irregardless of what the gender of the baby would be), preparing the baby’s nursery(provided of course if you have the space and the funds to do so), buying clothes for the baby,etc. It just honestly makes life so much easier.
Most doctors tell you that you can tell the baby’s gender by week 20, I waited till week 29(which could have also been the reason to my scan turning out the way it did since it was not a 3D scan) to go to the doctor for a gender scan and the GP told me it was a boy and even showed me the babies little thing and that was more than enough confirmation for me, I was convinced. I got so excited that because I had always wanted and dreamt of my first born being a boy, so I called my baby daddy(doesn’t sound right does it?I think it’s better when I say my partner) and friends about the great news but he just wasn’t convinced, he kept telling me it was a girl which just frustrated me because I was just like “I know what I saw my guy”. He was so fixated on the fact that I was carrying a girl that we ended up deciding that we would not discuss the baby’s gender until the baby was born to avoid fighting about it unnecessarily. My second scan had told me the exact same thing that the previous scan told me and so I just didn’t care what anyone else said i rendered to my baby as “him/he” because I told myself there’s no way it can be wrong twice.
Since my partner was so fixated on the baby being a girl and me on the baby being a boy we decided we would buy neutral colours when buying the clothes, I honestly couldn’t wait to give birth and prove him wrong(I honestly hate being wrong). Then the baby was born a few months later and when they held her up to for me to see the gender I couldn’t believe my eyes “it’s a girl” I said with a very confused look. It took me quite a while to come to terms with this, so much so that for the first few days I kept referring to her as “him” and the fact that there werr so many blue things that I had received from the baby shower just made things worse.
So just like that my scan had lied to me TWICE but I also strongly believe that maybe there was something wrong with the scanner so my advice to anyone who is expecting would be to rather go for a 3D scan and do it more than once. If a 2D scan is what you can afford you can go for a second opinion as well just to be sure.
Have you ever experienced such?
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